Hi, this is my first blog post on this website dedicated to harnessing the power or the principles of well-being to live a life free of addition. I’ve always dreamed of writing a book – I even have a Master’s degree in Creative Writing. But, I never dreamed that my great American novel would wind up being a book about addiction and recovering from it. See, I always knew I was a “melancholic” spirit, but I did not realize that I was actually clinically depressed and that my love affair with alcohol was not a romantic day dream of a wondrous lover, but a horribly abusive and destructive relationship. And a shameful one at that. I did not want to admit I had this dis-ease called addiction. I did not understand why me. I was not willing to accept the fact that it was what it was and there was nothing I could do about it.
Actually, there was plenty I could do about it. And there is plenty you can do too, if you are suffering from addiction and self-destructive behaviors. I could put on my big girl panties, accept the fact that my genetic biology made me susceptible to this disease, and that there was no shame in this. What was actually shameful was knowing I had a problem and doing nothing about it. It’s a long road to climb out of the deep, dark well we can find ourselves in. But, at the top of that tall well wall is a circle of light streaming down from above to reach you in the depths of the darkness. There is hope and there is a way. The thing is, tackling this disease head-on and fighting the substance you are addicted to is not the way to truly beat it. It doesn’t matter what the substance is – for me it was alcohol. For others it may be prescription pills, or sugar, or heroin. What matters is how you feel about yourself deep down, whether you have a strong sense of self love and esteem, and how well developed you are when it comes to emotional maturity and life coping skills. I can tell you I suffered in all these categories. It wasn’t my fault, though. I just never knew I was lacking in these areas and that this made me vulnerable to being ill equipped to deal with my biological tendency toward drinking and not being able to stop. If you met me in person, you’d think I was a really nice person. I’m attractive, I’m smart, and I’m funny. I love my kids and I’m a good friend. I also have a good job, make good money, and take care of my family.
So, you’re a good person too. You just fell into a hole and you don’t know how to get out, nor do you have the skills and tools to do it. I wrote this book because I felt my journey to get out of that hole was different than most of the traditional routes we’re subject to and I wanted people to know about it. That’s because I truly believe that in order to get well, to truly get well, and stay well, we need to do the inner work. This is where the principles of well-being come into play. These are all about building a strong sense of self, accepting who we are, forgiving ourselves and others, learning to let go of the past, and most of all to practice an abundant exuberance for life. It focuses on creating a life moving forward that we truly want to live, that is beneficial to our health and those who love us and we love, and is one we can feel proud of.
Here’s the thing. I went through two treatment programs and more AA meetings than I care to count. And this traditional approaches did not work for me. The truth is, they don’t work for many people. Our medical, mental, and health care systems are fundamentally broken in a lot of respects. When it comes to addiction treatment, the focus is most often on the actual substance itself, versus the person and their emotional, spiritual, physical, and mental well-being. Fix the dis-ease in these systems and you won’t have the symptoms of a full blown addiction anymore. That’s because when we are strong at our core, we are well grounded in who were are, we understand our limitations and accept our weaknesses, and we focus on being good inside and healthy in mind, body, and spirit, we become adamant about not polluting our bodies and our minds with abusive substances that serve us no good.
These principles of well-being are:
Principle 1: We’re all a Work in Progress
Principle 2: Self-Love is the Foundation
Principle 3: The Past is Gone Forever
Principle 4: Be Your Own Champion
Principle 5: Emotions Need Expression
Principle 6: Keep Your Power by Owning It
Principle 7: Abundance is Attitude
Principle 8: We are Spirit that Needs Nurturing
Principle 9: Resistance is Futile – Surrendering will set you Free
Principle 10: Forgiveness Starts with You
Principle 11: Who You Are Now is What Matters Most
Principle 12: Your Story is Yours to Write
Why I wrote this book is because somewhere along the way, I realized that I was never going to get well, unless I learned these principles and practiced them until they became the core fabric in my life. Only then, was I able to crawl out of that deep, dark well and remain firmly planted on the ground above, fully in the sunlight. Now, I’m a much more balanced and content person. I know how to live a life without drinking, I can go to social functions and have a good time without imbibing, and I feel so much better in health and mind, than those dreary days of being hungover and miserable all the time.
Because traditional treatment programs didn’t teach these things and because they were so vital to my recovery and keeping myself sober, I wanted to share them with everyone else who may be struggling.
My book talks about each one of these principles, what they mean, why they matter when trying to break free of addiction, and I provide practical tips and tools for how to do it. I also provide one or two exercises per principle for you to do and put into practice. These are all actual things that I did and they helped me immensely. My hope and trust is that they will help you too.
Lastly, if you have any questions you would like me to answer I will share my experiences and how I addressed the same challenge or issue, including what got me to successfully get through it to the other side. Just send me your question through the contact button below. All questions will be answered as a blog article post, so everyone else can learn from the answer too, but persons shall remain anonymous.
Buy the book on Amazon.com – Harnessing the Power of the Principles of Well-Being. You too can learn to live free of addictions and self-destructive behaviors. I’ll show you how and I’ll encourage you along the way. It takes courage, grit, and persistence, but you have all that and more. Most importantly, you are a good person and you deserve to lead a full and happy life. Embrace the principles of well-being, incorporate them into your life, and you will find yourself well on your journey to recovery and beyond.