Ever listen to that little voice inside your head that says those little ugly things? Like:
You’re not smart enough
You’re not pretty (or handsome) enough
You’re not good enough
And my personal favorite:
You’re not worthy enough
Where do these voices come from and how did they get there? If you said “your parents” you’re right. In myriad thousand ways your parents probably gave you lots of negative messages – all of which derived from their own fears, their own struggles, and well, their own parents’ legacy of being imperfect and damaged human beings. It also comes from society – your colleagues, your friends, people on the street, the media, you name it. It’s everywhere seeping into the porous gray matter in your head and stewing until it becomes a constant refrain in your head. It becomes your mantra that you repeat over and over and over.
Well, I’m here to tell you it’s a bunch of shit. The biggest culprit is you for believing that crap in the first place. It’s not your fault. You didn’t know you were being programmed with sour grapes and hostile messages that were damaging your psyche and your soul. You’re a tender person with a soft heart deep inside and you didn’t know how much these things hurt you, despite your tough skin persona. Until, one day you wake up and realize there’s been this pattern your whole life of being in bad relationships, or not asking for the promotion you deserve and getting passed over, or always being the nice guy who finishes last, or being the best friend but never the lover. It manifests in many different ways. The common thing, though, is the deep seated belief that you don’t deserve to be loved. It all points to this no matter which way you got there, what the specific messages were, or who and how you were rejected in your life that you took at reinforcement of this supposed fact.
But there’s hope and there is redemption. The fact is, that it’s just not true. And you have the power to decide what is true and what is not. You have the power to believe what you want to believe. And what you believe, makes your life. In reality, you are actually a beautiful and caring person, a great friend, a wonderful adventurer, a funny pal, a passionate lover, a….. You are all of these things and more. You just never heard those messages, not as much or often anyway. And you didn’t listen to those voices that told you these things, either. Instead, you focused on the dark callings and let the light slip away from you. Well, you are the light! And you deserve to be loved. The thing you need to do now is believe it. The surest way to do that is to repeat it over and over and over. Make it your new mantra “I deserve to be loved.” Repeat it every day, several times a day, for days on end, until it finally starts to dawn on you – it becomes a core fabric of your being that this is, in fact, the truth.